Tuesday, November 27, 2007

CD 11, and other aggravation

I had b/w and u/s this morning and I have a few follies, with the biggest at 11 mm. This is the first cycle in a long time that follie size and count don’t really mean much. I’m more concerned that I have a good lining this cycle, which I do so far. I go back in three days for more b/w and u/s and I’m really hoping I can get a timeline by then. Since this is a “natural” FET cycle we’re just waiting for my body to O on its own. However, my nurse said if my follies get to a ripe size then I will trigger with Novarel. They don’t want to miss anything so that will help us keep things in line. I was expecting to O in 9 days, but by the sounds of my follie sized it might not be that long. This cycle is really moving along!

So, my one SIL finally decided she wanted to know what was going on with us. We tried to talk to her before about it but she just ignored us. We learned she’d been dealing with a bad bout of depression and her marriage is in trouble. She now seems concerned about us so I decided to share with her. Then she started asking questions about things that totally seemed irrelevant. I don’t know if she wasn’t following what I was saying, but I was like let’s look at the big picture here. Those things are important. She also started down the road of giving advice (she has had 3 kids almost with zero effort of “trying”) so I kind of cut her off at the knees. I said that I’m not looking for any advice. If she would like to know what we’ve been through and what we’re dealing with now, I’d be happy to share with her. But I have all the medical advice I need and I’ve been to a therapist for the emotional stuff. I also thought that I have friends and family who have been supportive FROM THE BEGINNING and I don’t need her to jump on the bandwagon coming around the (hopefully) final turn. Ugh. That annoyed me. I tried to be very nice and let her into our IF world but it just kind of bit me in the ass. How do you deal with people giving unwanted advice? It’s hard to smile through it; I just can’t stomach it anymore. I need to forget about her. I have more important things to focus on right now.

Sorry if that didn’t make much sense. My fingers aren’t keeping up with my mind and I doubt I’m typing coherently. LOL.

I hope all of you reading this are in a good place in your TTC journey; and that you’re receiving great support when needed most. And those of you that need it, you’re in my prayers. Hugs to everyone today.


Just a girl in the south said...

Keeping my fingers crossed for you Maria! I'm sorry about your SIL - I have one just like that. Take care!

Leah said...

((hugs)) to you. I'm glad you were able to keep your SIL under control. It's difficult enough to open up to someone, let alone have them give you unsolicited advice.

And thank you for your comment earlier. You said it very eloquently.

Busted said...

Ugh - it's so hard to share with people that just don't listen to what you're going through. I commend you for trying!

Trish said...

I sigh thinking of the exercise in patience it must be.
It seems everyone who has ever born a child thinks they're a fertility expert.

If having a child makes them a fertility expert, then I must be a cancer expert since I don't have it.

Drives me batty.


P.S. You've been tagged!

Tracy said...

Maria, I'm sorry your SIL finally wanted to be "helpful." People have too much advice with too little information. I would have lost my patience with her.

I hope you soon have your super sticky baby.