Wednesday, May 27, 2009

Please weigh in

EJ will be 5 months old on Monday. And he's still sleeping in my room. Is that terrible? Should he be in his own room by now (and like months ago??)?

Ed and I have a few decision factors on the issue:

-He should sleep in his room because we're probably waking him up at night if we snore.
-He should sleep in our room b/c he still wakes up in the middle of the night (about 4 times a week) and it's so much easier with him close.
-He should sleep in his room so he doesn't have a hard time changing b/c he's getting too old and is just use to our room.
-He should sleep in our room b/c I want him to :)
-He should sleep in his room b/c otherwise I'm creating a very dependent baby.
-He should sleep in our room until he's old enough to roll over on his own.
-He should sleep in his room so his little noises don't keep me up at night.

What are your thoughts? I'm fully prepared for some of you to say he should have been in his own room at 6 weeks, but we obviously can't change history, nor would I have done it any differently. I guess I'm just looking to see if five months old is too old to still be in my room. Should we move him this month or can we hold out a bit longer??


Newt said...

You should do whatever you want. We moved Wiley to his own room about a month ago, because we were all ready, and the transition was easier than we expected. Slept better than ever from the first night (but his sleep has never been very good!)

If you want a reason to keep him in your room, I think the AAP recommends keeping babies in the parents' room until six months. It's good for him to hear your breathing!

Patty said...

I agree with Newt. You should do what makes you and Ed comfortable. I know that you waited a long time for EJ to be in your life and you are entitled to be able to see him as often and as much as you want.

Jill said...

I'm definitely not one to judge -- do what works for you! :)

I will say that you might sleep better with him in his own room. When Ava was in our room, I woke up every time she made a little noise. Once she was in her own room, we turned the monitor down a little so that we didn't hear every single breath and noise. A lot of times when she was in our room, I would get up to soothe her, but she didn't really need it. Now she soothes herself right back to sleep. Just my $.02!

Mrs.RebekahZombi said...

Long time lurker here...

My DD is only a few days younger than EJ and we are currently working on moving her out of our room. Actually I should say that we are working on getting her out of our bed and in her pack and play and then once she's used to that I will start putting her in her own room.

Do what feels right! I've tried at least once a month since she was born to get her out of our bed and she fought it so hard I would give up, but now she seems ok with the whole thing. I guess she's ready for some independence. Maybe EJ will be too! =)

Anonymous said...

All you can do is give it a try and put him in his crib one night and if all goes well then you know EJ and Mom are ready. If it doesn't work back in your room.

Anonymous said...

That would be tough - I agree with the last anonymous poster!


JJ said...

Im a total believer in doing whats best for you and that little one--can you do a trial run?
I have done both-but really only had him in our room when we travel somewhere and hes in the portable crib. When we are at home, hes in the crib--I know I worry about waking him up when hes in my room, but then I worry when hes not with me--Im not much help am I=)
I think you'll know when you are ready to try moving him=)

Tracy said...

Ditto Newtie and the AAP recommendation.

Andrew still sleeps with us. Sometimes in his crib and sometimes cosleeping. I'm not ashamed. It works for us!

Nine said...

You should do what works best for you. I was terrified we wouldn't be able to do it and I'd have a three year old sleeping with us, so we actually tried his crib about six weeks ago and it's been great. My quality of sleep is much better. It is sad to think of my little guy alone in his room, but I need to get over that. However, it works for some babies, but not all. Good luck!

Aly said...

I found your blog through a friend of a friend, and my son is 3 months old and I am having the exact same mental debate. Mine gets up every morning between 5-6am eats then goes back to sleep in bed with me. It is just so much easier than walking all the way across the house to pick him up and bring him back to my room. I'm a sucker though so he might just be still sleeping in his pack-n-play in my room when he is 3 hahaha. I say do what works best for you, and DON'T worry about what others think or do, it's YOUR family, and whatever you decide will be just perfect! Good Luck!

Trish said...

Robbie's 1 and still in our room. Though he'll be moving in the next couple of weeks. Only because he's about to break the weight restriction on his current bed!
Screw it. Do what works for you.