Monday, November 10, 2008

Assvice

I'm sure there are dozens of times in our lives where we get "assvice" from people for any given situation. But why does it seem so more frequent when it deals with pregnancy and rearing children?

We went to a wedding on Saturday for one of Ed's cousins and the couple has an 8-month old. While the bride was making her rounds greeting everyone at their tables, she stopped for like 15 minutes to talk to us about what our lives will be like after our baby comes. And there was no candy-coating going on. She talked about sleep deprivation, the woes of breastfeeding, fighting with your spouse, teething, crying fits, vomiting, etc. I hate when people dwell on the negatives. I'd rather talk to someone like Ed's aunt whose son is 30 an only talks about the joys of motherhood. It's like the more distant someone is, the fonder the memories.

In happier news, I'm now 30 weeks!! Only 10 weeks to go. Time is seriously flying by. My symptoms seems to be pretty mild compared to some. I have terrible heartburn still. I stopped Tums (they made me way too constipated) and I moved to Zantac. I don't think it works as well, or as quickly, but at least I can go to the bathroom now. LOL. I still have a crazy sleeping pattern and I get up 2-3 times a night to pee. My backs aches every once in a while, but it's nothing too bad. And that's about it. Sometimes my belly feels really heavy, like he's rolled up in a ball at the bottom of my uterus, but after a while he'll stretch out again and everything feels fine. I am just so anxious to meet this little guy!!!!

5 comments:

Newt said...

Oh dear, sorry you got ambushed. I think I'm the opposite--I would rather talk to someone about the problems with babies. Listening to people who are long out of the trenches and only remember the good stuff always makes me feel defensive. Like if my baby pukes and doesn't sleep, they are going to judge me. The baby isn't even here, and I've already got my hackles up about my parenting!

I'm glad you're feeling well. Ten weeks! I hope they fly by! (Mine are sort of waddling by, as I get bigger).

kjames106 said...

I'm sorry you got ambushed too! My husband and I deliberately ignored all of these comments. Maybe some of them are true, BUT the positives out weigh the negatives by far.

When you hold your son in your arms, all the world just disappears in that moment. The pain of TTC and IF definitely drift to the past. It's a feeling of pure love. IMO, I would compare it to the love our Father probably feels for us. It is so unconditional, your heart could explode. That is what you should focus on. Diapers and breastfeeding are just icing on the cake!!

Don't listen to the horror stories, they are just silliness.

Andrew & Laura said...

Of course there's sleep deprivation and crying and the baby blues, but the amazing love you feel for your amazing baby is ten times more powerful and makes all of the bad stuff just fizzle away. On my most awful days, I fall asleep with the comfort of knowing that this little person who loves me unconditionally is going to greet me in the morning with a huge smile and a "Hi Mama!" and all of the tears of raising kids dry up again. The most painful part of having children is how much it hurts your heart to love someone so much, and that's a very nice pain.

Lisa said...

I am so happy to hear that you are doing so well with only ten weeks to go.

Nine said...

Usually the people who dwell on the negatives of parenthood are the ones who've never experienced a loss or even remember they are speaking to someone who has. I try to give them the benefit of the doubt, but it's so hard! I would rather just walk away!

30 weeks! holy moly! Before you know it, your little guy will be here!!